School back in the day

I trust my imagination holds true - the oldies can tell me better - Ah! I love my eternal youth!
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Love taking Lessons

The sun shone brightly in the morning. By early afternoon the wind carried the clouds filling the sky with grey and a few spots of blue. The day was beautiful and the blessings were gathered on the horizon. As the sun made its final bow for the day, one wondered whether the clouds have united en masse to bring a auspicious end to a memorable day. [ 524 more words. ]

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I want to DIE!

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I want to DIE!

I want to Die! “Yes, he may do it”, said the judge. Alas! all too late for this man who wanted his rights to die with dignity

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A subject of interest

Many followers of the Abrahamic faiths viz Judaism, Christinaity and Islam are unaware that there scriptures forbid the indulgence in usury or, as we commonly know it, interest. The Bible, in both the Old and New Testaments, is littered with this prohibition and the Quran clearly speaks of the abomination of usury 


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Mid-life crisis at Forty

Is 40 or 40-ish the trigger for a midlife crisis or the springboard for greater success? Many people are psychology-driven by this "forty" thing, others are totally blasé and yet others find it a time to make excuses for doing silly things.

Men and women look at things so vastly differently although they may end up doing the same things. Life is but a test and our environment certainly plays a big role. Men develop a view that "there are some things in life we have missed out on and we need to still try and do". It is the period after they have started a family and there was some settling down. Now that the foundation has been laid, the man wants to get out and play.

Women will tell you that they also have missed on things and they certainly need to explore further too. The eternal difference between male and female is most often exposed during this period. The man wants to hunt and be out there with his toys and whoever his playmates may be. The sensitive emotion-driven woman wants to be out there but for a different reason. She looks at her life and says "I have put so much effort into raising the kids while I too was working", I need to be out there being loved and enjoying the finer things in life. 

It ends up being a tricky part of life when people stray and this is not restricted to one gender. But this straying is often to fulfill different needs. The woman wants the sensuality and the man, well, is not so sensitive about the detail. Is this real and can this be avoided and prevented? We cannot guess entirely what goes through our spouse's mind and there comes a time when even a thought or two is not shared. We are individuals and at times one may want that privacy - the privacy of our thoughts. That's not a crisis. The crisis is that, more often than not, people start living passed each other and thereby create different identities - the communication has broken down. This lack of communication allows private thoughts which are fuelled by different environments, by friends and family to steer us on a different path, a path not yet trodden by ourselves. The slightest spark lights the fire and the straying from the marital bed becomes a mistake or regret. Sometimes things spiral out of control and, often depending on the support structure, things are mended in some way or another.

This "midlife" period most likely is not defined at a set age, but anecdotally most changes happen around 40. People reflect on their lives around this time, intentionally or subconsciously (and more often than not it is the latter) and they see in their spouse an obstacle to greater happiness. Sadly, instead of finding a way to address it with the spouse, thoughts are further developed and action is taken unilaterally. The likelihood that you see some shortcoming in your spouse is further exaggerated because, over time, there was no meaningful way to address it.

The ideal person is the one who is young at heart but mature in his/her thinking and ways. The ideal couple is the couple where both parties share the view of being mature youths. Those that live with passion and have it ingrained in the family while be wise enough to build a platform for themselves and the children. Their wisdom will keep them from being reckless. Their midlife will not be a crisis but merely a springboard to take them both to greater heights together.

Forty is not a time to start being naughty. Forty is the age where we should think like a sage while with our spouse we still engage.

Friends

Family is family and is no way, good or bad, that one can choose them

While friends one can meet aplenty but the one who sticks around is the gem

I never chose to meet you though, as even the first time we hardly greeted

What was to follow was an amazing friendship that I did not believe anything could beat it.

 

I cherish those times when a phone call, a message or a visit made my day

A bond that developed that looked strong that nothing could come in its way

In the quiet of the night, while asleep, a dark cloud may have enveloped our friendship

Your silence ever so deafening as the messages and phone calls you let slip

 

A broken heart I have for I know not what I have done to cause you any distress

Your friendship means so much to me that even now I pray that God you do bless

The joys that you brought to my life for that I can never in any way repay

Some people slip out of one’s life slowly and quietly but you seemed in a rush to get away

 

I sit and wonder about all the times we had and hope that you will soon you will be there

There where we shared much with each other and such was the love our hearts did bear

You have always been a special friend to me and your absence I cannot accept

Pray I will that my shortcomings you will pardon because in my heart our friendship I have kept.

 

Relationships101 - Happiness

Picture the scene! You get up in the morning and you are all excited. Today you are going to conquer the world. You make a 90^º turn and you see someone standing there. It is your spouse. As great as you are feeling, your spouse is feeling the exact opposite. What happens next?

Amazingly, for some or other reason, it is generally more likely for a grumpy person to win the day than the happy person or at least at that moment. The reason being that the happy person will in all likelihood say the not-so-right thing and there goes the happy moment. We forget too quickly that we are all human and very vulnerable. Happiness needs work from the self while unhappiness, even thought possibly self-inflicted, does have the external factor to it. We thus flip into “negativity” much quicker than the other way round.

So what is the correct way for the happy one to influence the seemingly grumpy one. Firstly, always understand that the other person often is but a reflection of oneself. A couple are two halves of one and it is important that the whole remains intact. I am sure everyone would rather be happy than sad. Your contribution to happiness starts with that solidarity and oneness. We ought not to live with mere expectation but rather strive to be a positive contributor. Let the finger pointing stop,  take a deep breath and calmly tell yourself “he/she will not spoil my moment/day”, then proceed to radiate your calming and positive energy. Feel for the other person with the objective to get them to snap out of it quickly without uttering the command.

Uttering the command is dangerous. Rather, find the root of the issue as quickly as possible and one of two things should follow. Your assessment, genuine and accurate, is important. How serious is the other’s issue? Suggest that you will help in some way, remember be genuine. If you are really not able to help, be consoling and suggest ways to resolve it. Perhaps buy time to find the solution because you may want, in the meantime, to have a little fun.

You are in a relationship and it is important to realise that happiness must include both parties. Building an understanding helps one be happy and happiness shared is happiness doubled. Living your “own” life while in a relationship cannot lead to real happiness unless the relationship is like a brick.

We all, or many of us rather, have the habit of provoking the other party or sometimes we may actually misread a situation. Restore the better situation as quickly as possible and don’t blame the other for an argument or the fact that the other had the “wrong” reaction. Be conciliatory and best, in a quiet moment, to discuss these issues even using hypothetical examples and many times the offending party will realise their mistakes.

Happiness is to draw someone into the circle. When they are not ready then make the circle bigger. Be inclusive and happiness will endure.

Long may you all find happiness.